Allison M.

A crossdresser's thoughts on life, fashion, fabulousness, and (oh yeah) dressing up


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#TBT: An enjoyable first impression of Madison

There’s an anniversary in our family this week that I imagine we’ve forgotten about because we’ve been so busy.  I didn’t, however, although for a moment I forgot exactly which day it occurred.  For sure, though, it was in the month of May.  And definitely for sure, it occurred 20 years ago today (May 16, 1999).  This was the day that the older of my two sisters graduated from college.

Sis has been in the health care world for her entire professional life, and during the 1990s she went for further schooling, starting out at UW—Green Bay for a couple of semesters before transferring to UW—Madison.  And 20 years ago, our entire family spent the weekend herein Madison, where we all saw Sis walk up to that stage, grab that diploma, and turn her tassel from right to left.

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Very perceptive

I wanted to share in this quick post realization that dawned upon me late today at work.  As I mentioned in this post from early last week, management at the organization to which I’m currently assigned has set forth on a departmental realignment.  This is affecting me in a big way, in that I’m in the process of shedding a couple of important duties, including one that… well, let’s just say it affects our organization in a significant way.

As a natural part of this reorganization, I’m in the process of training the person who will take responsibility for the duties I’m shedding.  We’re right now in the early stages of training, and naturally, this person has been asking lots of questions, including those I’m stumped on and don’t know the answer.

To be clear, asking questions, be they few or many or large or small, is a very good sign for any new employee.  It means that they’re trying to absorb the ins and outs of the role, as well as the whys and what fors.

But with those questions, they’re also finding out something else:  What kind of situation are they getting themselves into?  This was made to clear to me when, late in the day today, I sat down with the person I’m training after I had caught myself up on a couple of e-mails.  She had a talk with our manager concerning a report I’ve been trying to catch myself up on and that she started helping out on.  And it’s a big report, too, both in size and in importance.  How important, you ask?  Let’s just say it’s a rundown of some of the stuff I’ve missed doing because I’ve been caring for my other tasks.

When I rejoined my new colleague, she made a very astute observation to me:  I’ve been in over my head.  Oh, and I landed in a rather bad situation when I joined this organization 9 months ago.

And you know what?  She was absolutely right in her observation.  In my time there, I’ve been trying to put out one fire after another.  And in the past couple of months, circumstances beyond my control let that fire grow into a five-alarm inferno.

But the good news is that she seems to understand the situation.  And while she admits she may not be able to solve every problem that’s resulted from all this missed work, she will try her darndest to care for it.

But this afternoon, at least, she revealed a very important trait that every good employee should have:  The trait of being very, very perceptive.


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Why Allison’s skipping Crazylegs

At the time I write this, it’s not just Saturday morning, but the last Saturday of April.  On this day, traditionally, the Crazylegs Classic takes place.  As loyal readers of this blog may recall, I’ve run the 8-kilometer-long Crazylegs each of the last three years (2016, 2017, and 2018).  Each time, it was a great experience, though naturally the first of those three was the most amazing.

This year, however, I’m skipping Crazylegs.  No it’s not necessarily because the event’s 8K course will go nowhere near Capitol Square (its traditional, and inspiring, staging area), thanks in part to the same ridiculous City of Madison permit changes that will prevent an LGBT pride parade on State Street this year.  And it’s not because the finish line setup and post-race party wasn’t as fun as many of my fellow participants had hoped it’d be. (The east side of Camp Randall?  *ugh*  A DJ instead of a live band?  *yawn*)  And it’s not because that around the time this year’s race begins at 10AM, Madison will start to get whopped by a nasty spring snowstorm (miserable weather has never stopped Crazylegs before).

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When even flowers couldn’t cheer me up

I want to show you a little something I received at my work assignment this morning:4-24-2019 804-43amI found this wonderful set of… violas, I think. (If you’re reading this and are a better horticulturalist than I am, feel free to correct me in the comments section.)  The chief executive officer of the organization I’m assigned to has demonstrated a cheerful disposition whenever I’ve interacted with her.  Even though I only get to see her on occasion, she is appreciative of those who work on the organization’s behalf.  Even a little grunt like myself and a colleague I’ll refer to as J.T. for anonymity’s sake.

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Random personal stuff (Easter Sunday 2019 edition)

So, did the Easter Bunny leave you lots of eggs to hunt for?  Did same bunny deliver lots of chocolate for you to devour?  Well, Peter Cottontail skipped my house this year, forcing me to buy all that sugary stuff on my own.  To be honest, though, I do need to keep watching what I eat, so it’s just as well that E.B. passed me by.  Perhaps next year, though.

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Good (to be away from work) Friday

The day I write this is Good Friday.  I won’t get into the religious aspects of this day in this space, but I will say that one good thing for me about this particular Good Friday is that I have the day off from my work assignment.  The office I’m working at is closed all day and everyone is enjoying the three-day weekend.  And after the past three weeks, a three-day weekend is coming at the right time.  Thanks to an abrupt staffing change, manpower has been short-handed (again), meaning a lot has been plopped both on my plate and that of my colleague.  That we both work under a demanding manager who has a stern, unpleasant demeanor and wants immediate results, or as timely results as possible, doesn’t make things any more enjoyable.

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A couple of spring election thoughts

A couple of thoughts that surfaced to the top of my mind the day after an important spring election.  Well, it was important here in Madison, and I’ll bring up why in a second.  If you had spring general elections where you lived, know that it was important for your locale as well, and that you exercised your right to vote.

Perhaps the most noteworthy election occurred in the city of Chicago, which in Lori Lightfoot will see only its second female mayor, not to mention its third African-American mayor. (That her opponent was also black and female made it an historic campaign.)  Lightfoot is also gay, and will become Chicago’s first openly LGBT mayor.

Lori Lightfoot’s victory is certainly noteworthy and historic in Chicago, certainly perking the spirits of her supporters and some optimism within the city’s LGBT community.  But here in Madison, we had our own significant election this week, involving the person pictured to your right.  Satya Rhodes-Conway has called Madison home for 20 years.  She served on Madison’s City Council for 6 years and had been working with a UW—Madison-based think tank when she decided to run for the office of Mayor of the City of Madison.

Satya was among 6 candidates for mayor and placed in the top two when the first round of the election was held in February.  The other person who advanced to this week’s election is perhaps best known by this moniker:  “Mayor for Life.”  No, don’t take that literally, but he did spend 22 years over 3 tenures as mayor that covered parts of five decades.  That and the fact that his viewpoints and fighting spirit matched that of most of the citizenry (progressive, radical) gave one the sense that he could be mayor for as long as he lived on this earth.

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“Effective immediately…”

About 20 years ago, when I was in a previous place of employment in another town, I had for a colleague someone who was, at least from the interactions I recall having with her, someone with quite an outgoing personality.  I don’t remember her name, but I’ll just call her Roz for the sake of reference.  Roz was friendly, but she could be brash.  Roz was admittedly not perfect, but she radiated overconfidence.  And Roz knew what she wanted to say, even if it meant saying it at the wrong time or setting.

Looking back on it, I admit I had a tendency to overlook all of Roz’s personality shortcomings and appreciate the fact that she did the work that needed to be done.  Then again, so did our teammates, at least a couple of whom voiced their disgust of Roz to me in confidence.  She’s lackadaisical, they’d tell me.  She’s always on her cell phone at work.  She’s not keeping up on her tasks.  She makes quite a lot of errors.  She’s a drag on our team.  And I knew they were right, for at that time I routinely cared for our supervisor’s production reports and noticed that Roz was frequently on the low end of production and accuracy. Continue reading


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Random personal thoughts (3/17/2019 edition)

I’m writing this on St. Patrick’s Day morning, an occasion when I feel more blah than lucky.  First off, I’ve been sick almost all week.  Usually when the season transitions from warmer to colder or vice versa, I tend to get rocked by a nasty cold that lasts much of a whole week.  It’s the case almost every October and, as this week reminds me, every March or even April.  Call it a case of my immune system trying to adjust to a different temperature extreme.

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At the end of a long February…

On a couple of occasions in this blog’s early years, I ended a long (for me) month by posting a soothing picture of a serene sunset somewhere on the internet, all for the sake of mental decompression.  I must do so again here, at the end of a long (for me) month by posting this picture of the Aurora Borealis found here.  (Yeah, it’s not technically a sunset, but still…)

I need this bit of serenity after what for me has been a long month (ironic since it’s only 28 days long) and especially this work week.  For the sake of anonymity and not boring you to death, I won’t get into too much detail, other than to say that a colleague and I have been put on a very big project.  One of our immediate supervisors has very big expectations of us on this project, so much so that she’s had three big meetings with my colleague and I this week alone.  Needless to say, if we get results, she will be pleased… and she’s a very hard person to please.

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