Allison M.

A crossdresser's thoughts on life, fashion, fabulousness, and (oh yeah) dressing up

A poem: “Come On In”

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This is the Sunday morning of the OutReach Pride Parade/Rally here in Madison.  Later this afternoon, members of the LGBT+ community will march proudly down State Street and celebrate our hard-fought freedom to live as our true selves.

But as you may have guessed from my previous two posts, this pride weekend in Madison isn’t quite the lovey dovey moment it should be.  This year’s OutReach Pride theme is “Stand up!  Speak out!  Fight back!”  However, it’s been an inward fight rather than an outward one against those who shun our community.  And it’s clearly more than an issue of whether the cops can march in the parade or whether said cops are willing to listen.  At the risk of airing out private conversations, there’s been a bit of resentment within the trans/CD support group I’m a part of.  Well, at least there is an issue within the private Facebook page our group utilizes.  The same people who raised valid issues about the police presence in the parade and how said police treat trans and queer persons of color are also challenging us to embrace that very same TQPOC community.  And while it’s not like a civil war in our group, the boisterous comments in our Facebook page over the past week-plus — heck, within the past 24 hours — sure make it feel like one.

While some of the issues these members have raised do have merit, it’s not as if our group isn’t trying to welcome TQPOCs.  Indeed, we’re striving to improve how we approach TQPOCs, be it simple inclusions on a parade float or a big “open” sign in neon lights.  From literally this weekend forward, our group’s necessary embrace of TQPOCs and trans/non-conforming people in general will be a lingering issue we will strive to improve upon.

My only hope… well, only two hopes is that, for one, TQPOCs will understand that we do not seek to shun them or make them unwelcome, and that we have a shared strife no matter our skin.  My other hope is that those in our group who have been vociferous in defending TQPOCs understand that our group as a whole is not perfect, or at least as perfect as they’d prefer us to be, and that we will always strive to be a welcoming group.

This important and upsetting controversy inspired me to quickly write the following prose.  Yep, all this was written this morning before I got dolled up for the parade.  (No, I’m not bragging.)  This poem is not perfect… but then, I’m only human, as are those in the trans community.  To all TQPOCs, wherever you may call home, know that you are valid human beings, and that you should be supported and held high.  And to my fellow Madison trans group members who’ve so passionately (angrily?) discussed this issue, I hope you can lay down your swords and shields and help lay out our welcome mat to a more diverse trans community.

“Come On In”

You say you know who you are
But the rest of the world doesn’t see that?
That is, if they see you at all?
Don’t worry, for we see you
And can catch you if you fall
All you need to do is…
Come on in

Have you been shunned or disowned
By friends and family
Who’ve tried to mold you “perfectly”?
We have our own flaws as well
Due to our own living “hell”
But we’ve learned from our flaws
And they have made us stronger
And let us enjoy life a little longer
We can help you see that, too
After one thing we hope you can do:
Come on in

You know you’re one gender, not another
But you’ve been branded as a color
By a cruel, unforgiving world
It’s awful that they can’t see who you are
For when given the chance, you can go far
And when given positive words
You’ll know you’re not really a scourge
We can help put a smile on your face
For ours is a welcoming place
All you need to do…
Is come on in

What?  They say we ignore you?
That we’ll never welcome you?
Well, that’s not true!
How could they have such an awful view?
Yes, they’re in the same group as us
But their words don’t reflect all of us
We really do want you
And we will listen to you
We’re able to see past those stubborn few
Who insist that they should speak for you
We’re willing to learn about the real you
All you’ll have to do…
Is just come on in

While we’re not perfect, are hearts can still move
We acknowledge our need to improve
Tell us your stories, and we will listen
Gaining empathy is our mission
Your trials and tribulations we will revere
And we will make you feel welcome here
No matter your image or identity
We will help you feel loved and happy
All you’ll have to do…
Is just come on in

Know that we’re not your enemies
We do suffer shared adversities
Applied by cruel and evil people
From distances near and far
Who would love to wish us out of existence
Just because we live as who we are
But together, we can overcome their hate
And stand in a stronger state
But first, we should meet in the middle
At the very least
So, please, come on in

Whether you’re male, female, or non-binary
No matter your nationality
Or your proud identity of color
Know that we’re your siblings
Or sisters or brothers
We’re your allies and friends
We can stand with you when you fall
And give you aid to help you stand tall
Once you come on in

Our doors are wide open!
We’re here to say, “Welcome!”
There’s no need to fear us
In us, you can place your trust
All you’ll need to do…
Is just come on in

Please… come on in

Author: Allison M.

A part of the trans community ("cross-dresser" is the term that applies to me) who finds themselves much more expressive and somewhat more confident when presenting in a feminine persona. An admirer and supporter of those who are fashionable, fabulous, and friendly (LGBT or otherwise). Someone who tries to be witty and unique, but is not even remotely perverted or a pariah (I am a real human being, just like you). Using various writing styles on this blog to communicate thoughts and feelings concerning my life experiences, fashion sense, and the world at large (and maybe impressing my high school creative writing teacher who deservedly gave me middling grades).

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